In this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of aligning our visions, even when we see things differently. Kim highlights the importance of ensuring that individual visions within a couple are in sync, and we share our personal process for creating a shared vision through collaboration and teamwork and manifesting desires through shared vision.

Being crystal clear about what you want can supercharge the manifestation of your desires. When creating your vision board, its so important to prioritize your values. It’s all about living in accordance with what truly matters to you. Tune in to start crafting your vision for the life and business you truly desire!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[2:25] Creating a shared vision for life and business as a couple or individual.

[8:05] The importance of aligned visions and clarity in relationships

[10:10] Manifesting desires through writing and not judging each other’s dreams

[14:50] Prioritizing values in creating a vision board.

[17:35] Creating a vision board and manifesting goals

[23:00] Setting and achieving goals with a vision board

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Today we have an eye-opening conversation about the ever-evolving world of social media and its impact on our lives. We kicked things off with a discussion about our passion for Italy and how it inspired us to create content that truly resonates with our ideal audience. Recently social media has transformed into a platform for influencers and educators with curated content but the tides are turning!

The key to success and building an audience that sticks around is being true to yourself; let your personality shine through! However, as we all know, with great exposure comes great responsibility. We dive into the darker side of social media: the keyboard warriors, hate bots, and the cancel culture that can make anyone hesitant to share their true selves. How do we deal with trolls? We shared some insights on that too.

The conversation shifts to the evolution of social media, from personal posts to curated feeds, and now, the fascinating world of TikTok. We explore how this platform rewards good content and discuss two extreme examples of individuals leveraging their personalities to successfully build niche followings.

One essential lesson we’ve learned is the power of educating through storytelling. Whether you’re entertaining or educating, it’s all about the story you tell. We emphasize that the “why” behind your content matters the most and explain how you can find yours. If you’re looking to make your mark in the social media landscape and build true connections, tune in to this episode to discover how you can find your own passion and storytelling style in this dynamic digital era. Don’t miss it!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[0:00] How does it feel to be back?

[4:05] Seeing our friends in New York and Lori’s podcast.

[8:10] The pioneer of authenticity on social media.

[12:00] How to deal with trolls online?

[17:30] The power of educating through storytelling.

Listen to Lori on Earn Your Happy: Why Being Afraid To Be Yourself Will Cost You

Listen to Chris and Lori on The Chris Harder Show: You’re Going To Get Caught Being Yourself

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Break free from the societal norms of age-related limitations and embrace the idea that you can pursue your dreams and passions at any stage. We refuse to accept the notion that living longer equates to living less. Age should never be a barrier to living a fulfilling and purposeful life.

Instead, we embody a vitality mindset, seizing each day with passion and zest. We want to inspire you to make the most of the extra years you’ve been blessed with, breaking free from self-imposed limitations and societal expectations. Confront the urge to give up or lose motivation and equip yourself with powerful strategies to combat these challenges head-on. We share personal stories and dive into the psychology behind resilience, reaffirming that our dreams and aspirations are not bound by age but fueled by our unwavering determination.

As a couple, we adopt habits that nurture our physical and mental health, enabling us to thrive at any age. By taking proactive steps toward our well-being, we assert control over our destinies and set ourselves up for a fulfilling and vibrant future together. Join us on this journey and transform your perspective on aging!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[1:15] How do men and women feel about aging?

[4:00] We’re living longer, but are we living less?

[8:35] Why do you have to fight the urge to stop doing what you do?

[10:57] The 10,000 Hour Principle.

[16:49] Preventative measures against mobility, cognitive decline and health decline.

[21:20] Starting as a beginner feels so daunting.

[26:03] What’s the one thing they can test on you to determine how fit you are?

[28:30] Make a mental decision to hang out with young people to keep working.

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Get ready to explore how working together as a couple can bring immense strength and growth to our partnership. Being a team player is vital in any relationship, and we’ve experienced firsthand the challenges that arise when we don’t align our efforts effectively. That’s why we want to emphasize the importance of teamwork and provide practical tips to foster a collaborative spirit in your relationship.

We’ve discovered that our identity as a couple is synonymous with being a team. When we embrace this mindset, our bond strengthens, and we can tackle challenges with resilience and unity. Together, we’ll explore the transformative potential that arises when we view ourselves as a powerful team working towards shared goals and aspirations.

It’s fascinating how opposite strengths often attract couples to each other. We’ll dive into this concept and uncover how embracing and appreciating our unique qualities can create a harmonious and balanced partnership. There are also emotional aspects of navigating internal struggles as a couple. We’ve experienced challenging times when the battle was within, and we’ll share our insights on supporting each other during these moments.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[4:05] The power of working as a group.

[10:05] Who’s a drama queen?

[12:35] Are you a team player?

[18:45] Your identity as a couple is your team.

[21:45] People are attracted to each other because of their opposite strengths.

[24:25] Strengthsfinder insights.

[29:20] When you’re going through something and it’s inside of you.

[32:20] Don’t confuse empathy and sympathy.

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Initially, we took it as we were building with our network marketing team to see what our strengths were, so we knew how to best serve the team. But quickly, we discovered that this was going to be way more impactful.

Sundays Funday & Strengths

After we took the test, every Sunday we grabbed the Strength Finder reports and a pitcher of mimosas. We sat in our local eatery and read about each others top 5 Strengths. The way that the Strength Finder describes each strength was literally like peaking into each other’s brains. It was like reading a really specific horoscope that was a flaming arrow through your personality. The more we read, the more we began to truly understand each other, why we do the things we do and why we do not do other things.

In marriage, people often say “marriage is work”. For us, this is the “work”. It’s understanding each other, how we think DIFFERENTLY. And not only understanding it, CELEBRATING IT.

Your Filter for Life

As humans, we see the world through our filter and believe, this is the way everyone sees it. I had a friend that was in a rocky marriage, and she would often complain about all the things her husband “did wrong” according to “her”. I put this in quotes because, she couldn’t seem to understand that “her way” was not the only way. And that maybe her husband wasn’t wrong, maybe he just used a different filter or lens to see the situation.

Our Strengths are our filter. It’s how we think. And, when you have two people with different strengths, you see things differently. For Rob and I, learning how each other sees the world allows us to understand different perspectives and lean into each other’s strengths.

Considering we work together, live together and raise a family together… it’s a lot of “together” time. And if we didn’t understand how each other processes issues or even excitement… we’d be in big trouble.

Strengths & Blind-Spots

Now, this is where the fun really begins. Your strengths are definitely what makes you tick. They make you successful and help you thrive. BUT, they can also get you in trouble. Strengths have what I call, blind-spots. It’s where your strength can actually work against you. Simply understanding how your strengths work both FOR and AGAINST you, will make you a better friend, spouse and business partner.

Rob & Kim’s Real Life Examples

Kim’s TOP Strength & Blind-Spot

My top strength is Ideation. This means I’m fascinated by ideas, creating ideas and creating connections between phenomena. I naturally find new ways of doing things. I’m innovative. I thrive on helping people connect the dots and develop seeds of ideas.

This seems like an incredible tool right? And, yes, it is.

But, it has a few blind-spots.

I’m an IDEA person. But… I struggle with the follow-through. (in a few minutes, you’ll see why Rob and I are perfectly matched).

If you have a problem, I will come up with 400 ways to solve it. Why is this a problem? In business, it’s less of an issue – in friendships or marriage, it can be annoying. This really helped my best friend understand me better and helped me understand that sometimes, friends want to vent. My top strengths of ideation and strategy are my filter, I don’t typically “vent” without looking for a solution. But, apparently, not all people are like this (lol).

Now, when someone tells me their problem, instead of launching into my ideas for solutions, I simply ask, “Do you just want me to listen, or do you want help solving this problem?” In addition, my friends now preface our conversations with, “I need to vent” or “I need help” so I know my role. I even use this with Sofia, because often our kids don’t want help, they just want someone to listen.

Rob’s TOP Strength & Blind-Spot

Rob’s top strength is Futuristic. People exceptionally talented in the Futuristic theme are inspired by the future and what could be. This is why he is a VISION master and can really see and develop potential in his coaching clients. People who are not in love with their present, seek out people like Rob who have natural VISION for what could be coming down the pipeline. They need HOPE and vision provides that.

The blind-spot of being SO futuristic?

Rob’s high Futuristic, makes it difficult for him to celebrate the current moment, because he’s already envisioned it, it seems like the past. This realization caused him to put more focus into the present moment and enjoying it, and not always being stuck in the FUTURE vision.

How this Works in Relationships & Business

As an entrepreneur, knowing your strengths allows you focus on what you’re good at, and let you outsource the rest.

His #2 strength is discipline. Pairing him, with a high discipline, with someone like me who struggles with follow-through – could mean disaster! If he used his filter of discipline, and judged my lack of follow-through, we’d not be approaching our 20th year together!

Instead – we see each others strengths AND acknowledge (and not judge) the blind-spots. My Ideation, plus his Discipline equals SUCCESS in both business and life.

As entrepreneurs, knowing our strengths allows us focus on what we’re good at, and lets us outsource the rest. Also, if you have a team or staff, knowing their strengths is KEY to working together effectively. Even in our physical medical clinic, before we hired anyone, they took this test to make sure their strengths aligned with the job description.

The Bottom Strengths

There are 34 strengths. Your Top 10-15, are typically what creates most of your personality, how you think etc.. These can be developed and improved, where as your last 10-15 are a bit harder to “improve”. However, it’s not necessarily about improving your weaknesses. If you can have self-awareness of your weaknesses, that’s a massive step in the right direction.

Here’s how I deal with my biggest weakness.

Of the 34 Strengths, my last one is Harmony. People with a high harmony, which both my best friend and husband have, look for consensus. They don’t enjoy conflict; rather, they seek areas of agreement.

I on the other hand, could care less to find harmony IF it means compromising on what is right. I’m a very caring person and truly try to help as many people as possible, but I simply don’t value Harmony OVER my sanity or doing the right thing. I am not afraid of the bully, I won’t back down on doing the right thing and I won’t allow myself (or the people I love) to be taken advantage of. That’s the positive (in my opinion lol).

However, seeing that my harmony is literally #34 and for Rob and my bestie, it’s very high – I will take a pause and talk with them before going to war on their behalf. I realize that harmony is important for them, and don’t allow my lack-of-harmony to make them uncomfortable.

If we hadn’t taken this test, both Rob and my bestie could just think I’m extreme, don’t care about other people feelings etc.. but now, they get me, and because I understand this weakness, I’m able to curb it… sometimes

The Goal with Strength Finder

The goal for us with Strength Finder is to learn about each other and ourselves. Self-reflection can be difficult, but seeing it through Strength Finder make sit easier. If you choose to take the Strength Finder, go all-in and get all 34 strengths and not just the Top 5. Then, don’t just read the list. Truly take the time to read the reports that guide you through the positives and blind-spots of each Strength.

And, if you’re doing this with your spouse, make it fun, non-judgemental and learn how the person you love truly thinks!

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It took my a while to get the secret into my thick head! This is the secret weapon that’ll send your business skyrocketing? It’s been hiding in plain sight all along. The key to exploding it in the business world might just be in your personal life – your relationship with your spouse.

Your Relationship Superpower:

A rock-solid bond, trust, and unwavering support in your relationship can act like a freakin’ jetpack for your dreams. When you’re truly in sync with your spouse, you’ll find yourself taking risks, aiming higher, and reaching for the stars. Life gets electrifying when your personal life fuels your business growth.

But here’s the trap – so many entrepreneurs let their businesses consume their entire lives, leaving their relationships gasping for air. They sacrifice the very connection that could be their superpower. Enough is enough. It’s time to find that perfect work-life balance and build a life that’s freakin’ unstoppable.

Finding Balance

When you make your relationship a priority, it spills into every aspect of your life – especially your business. When your personal life is thriving, you’re happier, more focused, and more productive. You become a powerhouse, and your business reaps the rewards.

A killer relationship is the ultimate business booster. With that unshakable bond, you’ll be crushing obstacles and reaching for greatness like never before. So, how do you unlock this hidden potential? Follow these steps to find that sweet spot of balance:

1. Set Boundaries: Draw a freaking line between work and home. Don’t let them bleed together. Establish a dedicated workspace, and when you’re off the clock, be fully present with your spouse.

2. Communicate: Open communication is the backbone of any strong relationship. Share your goals, dreams, and aspirations with your spouse. Be each other’s rock, and offer unwavering support and encouragement.

3. Schedule Quality Time: In the hustle and bustle of entrepreneurship, it’s easy to let quality time with your spouse slip through the cracks. Make it a priority to consistently carve out time just for your spouse, free from work and distractions.

By investing in your relationship and finding some sort of work-life balance, you’ll unlock a hidden powerhouse for your business success. Let your connection fuel your drive for success, and watch your business soar to new heights.

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Here’s the thing about having a public profile… The moment you say something that the status-quo doesn’t agree with… you’re cancelled!! Debate is dead… and, we’re honestly tired of the BS and censorship.

Plus, there are topics that sometimes we want to tackle, but it’s not truly in the lane of our regular FriDate Podcast.

So, last Fall, Rob and I started a PRIVATE podcast where we talk about our deep opinions on taboo topics BEHIND the wall and into a private community where you can vote with your feet (and your credit card lol).

FriDate: On the Fly is a PRIVATE podcast we produce unedited and unfiltered 2x a month. It’s a place where we can talk about sensitive subjects, often fight it out but, ultimately feel safe to go deeper into our personal beliefs.

Topics we’ve covered (and fought about) on our private FriDate On the Fly episodes include:

• Taboos in America that are NOT taboo in Italy (sex vending machines, drinking, nudity…)
• Step-by-Step how we are creating our 2023 Vision Board
• The #1 Question we ask ourselves that allows us to DREAM bigger
• How Kim reacted to Rob getting a woman’s number in the hair salon
• Does having children improve your relationship?
• Upgrading your life, eliminating tolerations and more..
• Summer travel stories
• Culture clash in Ibiza…going topless

(Don’t stress, our regular FriDate Podcast is still free and posted weekly!) but for those that want to connect deeper…

We have two options….

1. Our VIP Option is literally only $5 (almost comical) and gives you access to these Premium episodes that don’t air on our regular, public podcast. Plus, you get a weekly Manifest Monday strategy!

2. The Ultimate Member which gains access to the private podcast, Manifest Monday… plus..
discounts on our courses
forever early bird pricing on events
discounts on our Italy experiences AND…
a monthly LIVE Zoom with us. We have a monthly topic around personal growth, and creating your dream life and offer micro-coaching.
recording of all past/current monthly zooms including our 3-part Vision series

The price… $25/ month… like, what????

I know…. We’re insane and should add a zero to that number, but we love our private community and want to keep it accessible to our listeners.

Our monthly Zoom’s are a massive highlight for Rob and I. We LOVE connecting with our community. We always bring a topic that we believe will serve them, their personal growth and help them achieve their dream life.

If our private podcast and community piques your interest, click this link and check it out. See you on the flip side!

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Moving on to your next chapter can be an uneasy, yet exciting, experience, especially in a scenario where either you or your spouse wants a shift in their career. Rob and Kim share their experience having gone through this process over the past few years. 

After crossing off quite a few items on their bucket list when they were younger and Rob working a day job that he now dreaded, Rob and Kim were focused on moving on to their next chapter. With Rob being the primary source of income, they were feeling torn between maintaining financial security and living the life they wanted. 

Rob and Kim found it essential to create an environment in their current situation that was uplifting, encouraging, and still allowed joy. Kim found that her most important role in their situation was that of a supportive partner and to help strategize for their journey ahead – living in the “messy middle” for a while – while maintaining their current situation until their alternate sources of income were able to mature. 

Get Additional Private Podcast Content Here: www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples Here: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Apply to Be a Part of the Platinum Event Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/mastermind/

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

Listen to the Next Chapter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/next-chapter/id1657736966

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After close to two-decades together, I can honestly say that we have a better marriage now, than during the honeymoon period. Whereas, in many of my friend’s relationships, they’ve grown apart. There are obviously a lot of reasons people grow apart, but to have a better marriage you need to stay connected outside of daily schedules, duties with the kids and the stresses of life.

Our #1 Strategy for a Better Marriage

Over the last 18 years, once, maybe twice a week, over coffee or on a walk, we have asked each other 7 questions. These questions were created by Tony Robbins as a daily self-assessment and gratitude practice. But for us, when we use them together, the result is a deeper, lasting and better marriage.

Sometimes, when life is going great, these questions act as a way to validate our gratitude and keep our vibration high. And when life feels stressful, overwhelming or we’re being challenged, these questions help us communicate, raise awareness of our individual stresses and ultimately create conversation in a safe way. In both instances, after completing the questions, we feel more connected and heard which leads to a better marriage.

The 7 Questions for a Better Marriage

First, you’ll notice that the questions follow a frame work. And when you initially read them, you may shrug them off as similar to each other. I challenge you to find the true meaning of the highlighted word and really focus on how it’s a different emotion than the others. That’s where the work is, and that’s exactly how you will improve your communication, raise your vibration and yes, create a better marriage.

1. What am I most happy about in my life now?What about that makes me happy? How does that make me feel?
2. What am I most excited about in my life now?What about that makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
3. What am I most proud about in my life now?What about that makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
4. What am I most grateful about in my life now?What about that makes me grateful? How does that make me feel?
5. What am I enjoying most in my life right now?What about that do I enjoy? How does that make me feel?
6. What am I committed to in my life right now?What about that makes me committed? How does that make me feel?
7. Who do I love? Who loves me? What about that makes me loving? How does that make me feel?

Example of how we complete the 7 Questions

I want to share how I would answer these questions today. See what you learn about me that you didn’t know.

1. What am I most happy about in my life now?What about that makes me happy? How does that make me feel?
   • I am most happy that my daughter is finding her passions in our new city.
   • It makes me happy because I love to see her little mind expanding.
   • It makes me feel like we made a great decision moving to Italy.
2. What am I most excited about in my life now?What about that makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
   • I am most excited about our upcoming trip to Disney Paris.
   • It makes me excited because Sofia’s the perfect age to enjoy it.
   • It makes me feel like a kids again, carefree.
3. What am I most proud about in my life now?What about that makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
   • I am most proud of my learning and practice of Italian.
   • It makes me proud because it’s hard, but I’m finally able to recall words and use sentence structure.
   • It makes me feel like I’m able to connect deeper in our community when I speak Italian.
4. What am I most grateful about in my life now?What about that makes me grateful? How does that make me feel?
   • I’m the most grateful for our terrace.
   • It makes me grateful because we it gives us an inspiring place to work and a beautiful backdrop for sunset dinners.
   • It makes me feel alive when I see the views of the Duomo and surrounding Tuscan hills.
5. What am I enjoying most in my life right now?What about that do I enjoy? How does that make me feel?
   • I’m enjoying trying new Italian recipes.
   • It brings me so much joy when my family tries a new meal and loves it.
   • It makes me feel like a great wife and mother.
6. What am I committed to in my life right now?What about that makes me committed? How does that make me feel?
   • I’m committed to bringing valuable, useful content to our FriDate listeners (and now readers of the blog).
   • It makes me committed because I’m passionate about the things that have helped our family unlock the keys to true fulfillment.
7. Who do I love? Who loves me? What about that makes me loving? How does that make me feel?
   • My husband, daughters, gia my dog, my friends.
   • They all love me back.
   • I love how they all play a role in my life and my happiness.
   • It makes me feel appreciated and loved.

Now, imagine doing this consistently with you spouse. The answers change day-to-day. Imagine how learning about your spouse will lead to a better marriage.

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