Reverse Engineering

We understand the significance of a crystal-clear vision in manifesting your dream life and provide insights on overcoming those pesky limiting beliefs that often hinder progress. From crafting a dream life budget in Italy to career development, passive income, and conquering obstacles, we cover many topics.

Plus, we delve into how you can think outside the box to create a new career path that helps you live the life you want. Join us for an engaging and empowering discussion that will guide you toward transforming your dreams into a tangible reality.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[0:55] Vision clarity and manifestation with limiting beliefs addressed.

[6:50] Limiting beliefs and vision for life.

[9:00] Creating a dream life budget in Italy.

[15:05] Moving to Italy and managing finances.

[18:25] Career development and passive income for nurses.

[24:25] Pursuing dreams despite obstacles and timeline concerns.

[27:50] Creating a life of freedom through real estate investing.

[33:00] Prioritizing goals and budgets based on personal vision.

[35:50] Using “what if” questions to brainstorm and overcome limiting beliefs.

[41:50] Entrepreneurship, vision, and decision-making.

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Powerful Visualization

Have you ever felt stuck in a stagnant environment, wondering how to find excitement and purpose? We’ve been there too, and in this episode, we embark on an exciting journey into the world of manifestation and vision. Manifestation is an art, and we’re sharing the powerful visualization techniques that work wonders for us!

Personal growth is at the core of manifestation, and we provide you with practical strategies to not only manifest your desires but also grow as an individual. We explore the fascinating connection between manifestation, vibration, and personal growth to help you understand how visualization and action go hand in hand when it comes to making your dreams a reality.

But we’re not stopping there! As you journey toward your dreams, you’re bound to encounter skeptics. Together, we’ll share tips and insights on how to stay focused, confident, and resilient in the face of negativity.

If you’re eager to unlock the magic of manifestation, create a vision for your dream life, and be inspired to take action, then this episode is for you!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[2:30] Manifestation and visualization techniques.

[8:20] Using gratitude to elevate emotions for manifestation.

[11:10] Finding gratitude and excitement in a stagnant work environment.

[17:05] Managing stress and negativity through self-care and spiritual practices.

[19:40] Manifestation and personal growth strategies.

[24:25] Manifestation, vibration, and personal growth.

[27:05] Manifesting desires through visualization and action.

[33:15] Manifesting and overcoming naysayers.

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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In today’s episode, we kick things off by discussing the all-too-familiar feeling of being overwhelmed and caught in the never-ending hamster wheel of life. But fear not, because we quickly segue into a thought-provoking conversation about doing work with personal meaning.

Next, we take a delightful detour into the enchanting world of Italian culture, flirting, and personal enrichment. Rob shares a fan’s praise for our authentic and educational Italian culture promotion – no exaggeration or judgment here, just genuine love for the beauty of Italy.

We’ll also be delving into Rob’s creative process, where he consistently asks himself, “Why does this matter?” whether he’s crafting TikTok videos or coaching people to redefine their own success. Personal authenticity and creating meaningful content is so important. We can’t stress enough how vital authenticity is in both business and personal relationships. We’ll share some personal experiences to illustrate the value of being true to ourselves and pursuing work that matters!

So, there you have it – a sneak peek into what awaits you in this episode of Fri-Date! Tune in now!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[1:00] Kim discusses feeling like she’s been running on a hamster wheel

[2:50] Rob shares a message from a fan

[4:40] Rob reflects on asking himself “why does this matter?” throughout his work

[6:50] Rob reflects on how they’ve designed their company to inspire people to redefine success for themselves

[10:50] Rob ponders cultural flirting

[14:40] Kim emphasizes the importance of asking yourself, “why does this matter to you?”

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Today we have an eye-opening conversation about the ever-evolving world of social media and its impact on our lives. We kicked things off with a discussion about our passion for Italy and how it inspired us to create content that truly resonates with our ideal audience. Recently social media has transformed into a platform for influencers and educators with curated content but the tides are turning!

The key to success and building an audience that sticks around is being true to yourself; let your personality shine through! However, as we all know, with great exposure comes great responsibility. We dive into the darker side of social media: the keyboard warriors, hate bots, and the cancel culture that can make anyone hesitant to share their true selves. How do we deal with trolls? We shared some insights on that too.

The conversation shifts to the evolution of social media, from personal posts to curated feeds, and now, the fascinating world of TikTok. We explore how this platform rewards good content and discuss two extreme examples of individuals leveraging their personalities to successfully build niche followings.

One essential lesson we’ve learned is the power of educating through storytelling. Whether you’re entertaining or educating, it’s all about the story you tell. We emphasize that the “why” behind your content matters the most and explain how you can find yours. If you’re looking to make your mark in the social media landscape and build true connections, tune in to this episode to discover how you can find your own passion and storytelling style in this dynamic digital era. Don’t miss it!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[0:00] How does it feel to be back?

[4:05] Seeing our friends in New York and Lori’s podcast.

[8:10] The pioneer of authenticity on social media.

[12:00] How to deal with trolls online?

[17:30] The power of educating through storytelling.

Listen to Lori on Earn Your Happy: Why Being Afraid To Be Yourself Will Cost You

Listen to Chris and Lori on The Chris Harder Show: You’re Going To Get Caught Being Yourself

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Imagine a life of automated abundance – yeah, that’s what we’re talking about! We’ve got a game plan to invest the next year or two into automation strategies that promise to generate passive income. And let me tell you, it’s a journey worth joining because who wouldn’t want to live in a world of infinite possibilities, right?

We’re sharing our inspired action list! It’s all about taking actions that align with your gut feelings and inspirations, leading you toward your goals. Our chat gets real when we start chatting about the nitty-gritty of manifestation, breaking down the difference between inspired action and just having intentions. We’re also zooming in on the incredible power of vision and inspiration – they’re like the turbo boosters on this manifesting journey!

Manifestation doesn’t come free of challenges. It’s not just about wishing upon a star; it’s about getting into the same frequency as your desires. We’ve got the scoop on how being receptive and open to the universe’s vibes is key. If you’re ready to manifest the life you’ve been dreaming of and learn how to get into that sweet spot where the universe works its magic, then this episode is your golden ticket.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[4:32] Automated Infinite Abundance Concept

[5:12] Rob’s Intention for Automated Abundance

[6:18] Creating Passive Income through Automation

[8:36] Becoming a Global Citizen

[9:03] Kim’s Focus on $300,000 Dream Life Income

[10:45] Introduction to Inspired Action List

[11:56] Characteristics of Inspired Action List

[12:38] The Role of Vision and Inspiration

[13:21] The Abundance Mindset

[15:02] Distinguishing Inspired Action from Intentions

[16:20] Aligning Actions with Vision

[17:50] Identifying True Vision for Life

[18:25] Balancing Vision and Action

[19:00] Challenges in Manifestation

[19:15] Problem with Simplistic Manifestation

[20:40] Openness and Receptivity in Manifestation

[21:12] Importance of Vibration and Energy

[23:25] Clarifying Desires for Effortless Progress

[24:10] Stepping into the Bigger Picture

[25:00] Conclusion and Key Takeaways

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that hits close to home for many entrepreneurs – it’s all about entrepreneurial ADD, also known as the infamous shiny object syndrome. If you’ve ever found yourself brimming with ideas but struggling to stay on track, you are not alone! We’ve been there and we have the tools to help you get on track and stay there.

We’ll dish out some honest insights about how our love for brainstorming new ideas has sometimes led us down rabbit holes, and how we’ve learned to channel that energy more effectively. Now, let’s talk about getting laser-focused on your vision. It’s easier said than done, right? We’ve been through those moments where we had to decide which idea to run with – and let’s be real, it’s a tough call. But we’re going to chat about why honing in on that one idea can be a game-changer. Plus, we’ll explore the delicate dance between aiming for success and acknowledging that failure is part of the journey.

Growth and progress sometimes take time, but we believe the best is yet to come. We’re also dishing out some insider tips about knowing when it’s time to pivot or pull the plug. We’ve been in situations where we had to set deadlines and experiment with new approaches, and we’re excited to share our strategies with you.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[01:10] Entrepreneurs struggle with shiny object syndrome.

[03:55] Ideation as a strength and stupid idea time.

[05:30] Transition to getting clear on your vision.

[05:40] Importance of focusing on one idea.

[06:55] Balancing success and potential failure.

[07:35] Challenges in deciding which ideas to pursue.

[08:25] Complex nature of entrepreneurship.

[10:00] Transition to knowing when to pull the plug.

[10:10] Setting a timeline and trying different approaches.

[12:05] Jet Set Life’s journey and passion project.

[13:40] Transition to starting Work Hard Play Hard.

[15:00] Creation of Work Hard, Play Hard.

[15:25] Transition to The Rob Murgatroyd Show.

[15:35] Progression and growth over 20 years.

[16:30] Anticipation for the future.

[17:05] Balancing between quitting and iterating.

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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TikTok is a whole new game, and what works on other platforms might not cut it here. That’s why we’re here to guide you through the ins and outs of TikTok success. Trust us, I’ve seen it all and learned a thing or two along the way. Let’s level up your TikTok game!

We know how frustrating it can be to diligently post and not see the fruit of your efforts. But fear not, we’ve got your back. We’re spilling the beans on the challenges we faced and sharing stories that will make you feel like you’re not alone on this wild ride. We’re dishing out the juiciest secrets on how to grow your TikTok account and become a viral sensation. From killer content optimization to riding the hottest trends and engaging with your audience like a pro, these tips and tricks will carry you to TikTok success.

Tapping into your true passions and staying unapologetically authentic is where the real magic happens. Stop trying to align yourself to the mold of your favorite TikTok accounts. Embrace your uniqueness, and watch your TikTok dreams turn into a reality! You may run into haters along the way, we all have, but we have strategies for handling the negativity and keeping true to yourself.

By following our advice and leveraging our experiences, you’ll be equipped with the knowledge and strategies to make a significant impact on this thriving platform. Get ready to unlock your TikTok potential and join us on this exciting journey of growth and success.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[1:50] Are we just all screwed if we don’t live in Italy?

[2:45] The plays on one platform may not necessarily be applicable on the other.

[6:35] When trying to determine the right platform for your business, it can be frustrating to the point of wanting to bang your head against the wall.

[8:45] Exploring the challenges of growing an Instagram account on Instagram.

[11:00] If you had to provide a few tips to someone going all in like you did, what would they be?

[13:00] It is crucial to have a genuine interest in something.

[14:50] Another important aspect to consider is that TikTok users can be mean.

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

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Let’s start by reflecting on what your dream life looks like. We believe in prioritizing your goals and aspirations without compromising your well-being and happiness. Together, we’ll debunk the myth that dreams should be put on hold and provide practical steps to harmonize work and personal life.

One key element we’ll delve into is the concept of a dream life budget. It’s a powerful tool that aligns your finances with your dreams, unlocking new possibilities and sparking creativity. We’ll guide you in personalizing your budget to match your unique aspirations, empowering you to make intentional choices that move you closer to your dream life.

We’ll also explore the importance of managing the little things in life. From relationships to self-care and leisure activities, finding balance in these areas contributes to your overall happiness and fulfillment. Together, we’ll share practical strategies that empower you to embrace the power of the little things and create a harmonious life.

Join us as we challenge you to redefine success. Beyond monetary achievements, true success lies in prioritizing happiness over material wealth. By exploring personal fulfillment, meaningful connections, and a sense of purpose, you’ll gain valuable insights to align your own version of success with your dream life aspirations.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

[2:20] What’s your dream life?
[6:55] The new age of young people are striving for work-life balance right out of the gate.
[8:55] What you need to do if you’re willing to put your goals on the back burner.
[13:00] What is a dream life budget?
[17:55] There is only one person who has it all together.
[19:55] Having a dream life budget is helpful because you get creative.
[23:25] Managing all the little things in your life.
[25:40] What does success look like for you?
[30:10] Happiness over money.

Get more information about Rob + Kim’s Italia: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6352c7416c4cf33281b5ee8f

Get additional podcast content here: https://www.patreon.com/fridate

Get the Vision Board Course for Couples: https://fridateacademy.thinkific.com/courses/Ultimate-Vision-Board-Couples

Work One-on-One with Rob Here: https://nextchaptershow.com/coaching/

Connect with Rob on Instagram: @robmurgatroyd

Connect with Kim on Instagram: @kimmurgatroyd

Listen to the Next Chapter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/next-chapter/id1657736966

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Initially, we took it as we were building with our network marketing team to see what our strengths were, so we knew how to best serve the team. But quickly, we discovered that this was going to be way more impactful.

Sundays Funday & Strengths

After we took the test, every Sunday we grabbed the Strength Finder reports and a pitcher of mimosas. We sat in our local eatery and read about each others top 5 Strengths. The way that the Strength Finder describes each strength was literally like peaking into each other’s brains. It was like reading a really specific horoscope that was a flaming arrow through your personality. The more we read, the more we began to truly understand each other, why we do the things we do and why we do not do other things.

In marriage, people often say “marriage is work”. For us, this is the “work”. It’s understanding each other, how we think DIFFERENTLY. And not only understanding it, CELEBRATING IT.

Your Filter for Life

As humans, we see the world through our filter and believe, this is the way everyone sees it. I had a friend that was in a rocky marriage, and she would often complain about all the things her husband “did wrong” according to “her”. I put this in quotes because, she couldn’t seem to understand that “her way” was not the only way. And that maybe her husband wasn’t wrong, maybe he just used a different filter or lens to see the situation.

Our Strengths are our filter. It’s how we think. And, when you have two people with different strengths, you see things differently. For Rob and I, learning how each other sees the world allows us to understand different perspectives and lean into each other’s strengths.

Considering we work together, live together and raise a family together… it’s a lot of “together” time. And if we didn’t understand how each other processes issues or even excitement… we’d be in big trouble.

Strengths & Blind-Spots

Now, this is where the fun really begins. Your strengths are definitely what makes you tick. They make you successful and help you thrive. BUT, they can also get you in trouble. Strengths have what I call, blind-spots. It’s where your strength can actually work against you. Simply understanding how your strengths work both FOR and AGAINST you, will make you a better friend, spouse and business partner.

Rob & Kim’s Real Life Examples

Kim’s TOP Strength & Blind-Spot

My top strength is Ideation. This means I’m fascinated by ideas, creating ideas and creating connections between phenomena. I naturally find new ways of doing things. I’m innovative. I thrive on helping people connect the dots and develop seeds of ideas.

This seems like an incredible tool right? And, yes, it is.

But, it has a few blind-spots.

I’m an IDEA person. But… I struggle with the follow-through. (in a few minutes, you’ll see why Rob and I are perfectly matched).

If you have a problem, I will come up with 400 ways to solve it. Why is this a problem? In business, it’s less of an issue – in friendships or marriage, it can be annoying. This really helped my best friend understand me better and helped me understand that sometimes, friends want to vent. My top strengths of ideation and strategy are my filter, I don’t typically “vent” without looking for a solution. But, apparently, not all people are like this (lol).

Now, when someone tells me their problem, instead of launching into my ideas for solutions, I simply ask, “Do you just want me to listen, or do you want help solving this problem?” In addition, my friends now preface our conversations with, “I need to vent” or “I need help” so I know my role. I even use this with Sofia, because often our kids don’t want help, they just want someone to listen.

Rob’s TOP Strength & Blind-Spot

Rob’s top strength is Futuristic. People exceptionally talented in the Futuristic theme are inspired by the future and what could be. This is why he is a VISION master and can really see and develop potential in his coaching clients. People who are not in love with their present, seek out people like Rob who have natural VISION for what could be coming down the pipeline. They need HOPE and vision provides that.

The blind-spot of being SO futuristic?

Rob’s high Futuristic, makes it difficult for him to celebrate the current moment, because he’s already envisioned it, it seems like the past. This realization caused him to put more focus into the present moment and enjoying it, and not always being stuck in the FUTURE vision.

How this Works in Relationships & Business

As an entrepreneur, knowing your strengths allows you focus on what you’re good at, and let you outsource the rest.

His #2 strength is discipline. Pairing him, with a high discipline, with someone like me who struggles with follow-through – could mean disaster! If he used his filter of discipline, and judged my lack of follow-through, we’d not be approaching our 20th year together!

Instead – we see each others strengths AND acknowledge (and not judge) the blind-spots. My Ideation, plus his Discipline equals SUCCESS in both business and life.

As entrepreneurs, knowing our strengths allows us focus on what we’re good at, and lets us outsource the rest. Also, if you have a team or staff, knowing their strengths is KEY to working together effectively. Even in our physical medical clinic, before we hired anyone, they took this test to make sure their strengths aligned with the job description.

The Bottom Strengths

There are 34 strengths. Your Top 10-15, are typically what creates most of your personality, how you think etc.. These can be developed and improved, where as your last 10-15 are a bit harder to “improve”. However, it’s not necessarily about improving your weaknesses. If you can have self-awareness of your weaknesses, that’s a massive step in the right direction.

Here’s how I deal with my biggest weakness.

Of the 34 Strengths, my last one is Harmony. People with a high harmony, which both my best friend and husband have, look for consensus. They don’t enjoy conflict; rather, they seek areas of agreement.

I on the other hand, could care less to find harmony IF it means compromising on what is right. I’m a very caring person and truly try to help as many people as possible, but I simply don’t value Harmony OVER my sanity or doing the right thing. I am not afraid of the bully, I won’t back down on doing the right thing and I won’t allow myself (or the people I love) to be taken advantage of. That’s the positive (in my opinion lol).

However, seeing that my harmony is literally #34 and for Rob and my bestie, it’s very high – I will take a pause and talk with them before going to war on their behalf. I realize that harmony is important for them, and don’t allow my lack-of-harmony to make them uncomfortable.

If we hadn’t taken this test, both Rob and my bestie could just think I’m extreme, don’t care about other people feelings etc.. but now, they get me, and because I understand this weakness, I’m able to curb it… sometimes

The Goal with Strength Finder

The goal for us with Strength Finder is to learn about each other and ourselves. Self-reflection can be difficult, but seeing it through Strength Finder make sit easier. If you choose to take the Strength Finder, go all-in and get all 34 strengths and not just the Top 5. Then, don’t just read the list. Truly take the time to read the reports that guide you through the positives and blind-spots of each Strength.

And, if you’re doing this with your spouse, make it fun, non-judgemental and learn how the person you love truly thinks!

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I’d ask, what’s your biggest flex?

• Is it that you fly private, that car?
• Is it a six-digit price tag or is it true time freedom?
• How often do you travel?
• How great are your friendships?
• How connected are you to your spouse?
• What do you do for FUN that isn’t related in ANYWAY to your business?
• How happy are you REALLY?

In the world of social media, splashing the car, the watch, the hell-expensive is one thing, MARKETING.

But here’s the think no one is telling you… the stuff you want (or think you want) has TWO price tags. One is called MONEY and the other is called TIME.

The $300,000 car will require a substantial time investment.

When you ask yourself can I afford this? Also ask yourself, do I want to do the work it takes to EARN this (and then the work to MAINTAIN it).

If yes, the follow up question is… WHAT will this additional work take my TIME and ATTENTION away from?

In other words, which area of my life will suffer to take on the extra clients, the extra business travel, the late nights, the extra Zoom calls etc…

• Your health: Gym time, healthy eating routine. Will that get impacted?
• Your well-being: How much additional stress will this bring? Will you still have time for your mediation and journaling?
• Your relationship. How will this effect my life with my partner? Date nights? Non-business trips? Will conversations solely revolve around business?
• Your family. How will this effect my spare time to play catch, go to school events, be home for nightly dinner, see Saturday soccer games?
• Your friendships. How often do I see my NON-business REAL friends vs. my DEAL friends… or are the lines blurring between the two?
• Your FUN! How often are you traveling and doing things purely for FUN and not related to business? Will that suffer?

THE LIE WE TELL OURSELVES

As you’re reading this, you may have said to yourself… “Yeah, but when I hit X goal, then I’ll pull back and be happy… I just need to hit $X first!”

This my friend, is a LIE.

Studies show that whatever you are making, you next financial goal is to 3X it.

I remember getting out of college and wanting to just make ANYTHING better than minimum wage. I began my first job and earned $30,000/ year. Woohoo!!! Success!

Nope. That $30k jumped to a goal of $100k. Holy shit, that’s more money than I’ll ever need! When I hit 6-figures… I’ll be happy.

Rang the bell and made $100k for the first time! Yes! Ok, now let’s go to $300k! That’s the ultimate!

Done. $300k. Happy yet?

I’m getting there… but what about a crazy goal -> proceeds to write fake check for $1,000,000 and staple to Vision Board.

Do you see the problem?

The constant upping of the $$ never ends. And, the reason is because most people spend to the limit of what they make. So, they always feel pinched. The house is never big enough, the car is never shiny enough, the purse is never cool enough.

Peeps, this is a slippery slope. The only way to stop sliding down this spiral is ONE THING.

CRYSTAL CLARITY ON WHAT YOU WANT & WHY

When you sit down and truly think through what you’d LOVE your life to look like, the thing that pops up is typically TIME FREEDOM over a Ferrari. Sure, you might want both. This is why we urge you to not only list what you want, but think about WHY you want these things.

A little radical honesty goes a long way. If you want the Ferrari because it’s always been a dream, ask yourself WHY. Was it your dream? Or was it someone else’s dream that sounded good? Is it something that you think would make you feel successful? Or are you obsessed with the craftsmanship?

Often, when you push back against yourself and uncover your true reason for wanting something, often, you’ll find out that it wasn’t a true goal or desire. And why would you grind-away working towards something that isn’t actually going to fulfill you in the end?

If you decide you do still want the Ferrari, and you understand the WHY behind it, then it’s time to price it. How much money AND time will this expense cost you? What’s the upfront cost, the upkeep cost and are you willing to pay the price in BOTH time and money to attain it?

If yes, chances are, you really do want it and you should go for it! If the answer is a no, then you just saved yourself a helluva lot of aggravation and energy.

Getting this type of CRYSTAL CLARITY is the most overlooked component of lifestyle design. Don’t stop at the surface of what you want, dig deep, figure out why and make a list that ACTUALLY will motivate and excite you!

RECAP:

1. Figure our what YOU REALLY WANT.

2. Figure out WHY you want it.

3. Find the cost in both MONEY & TIME

You deserve this level of clarity on your goals. Not just some arbitrary b.s. goals to boost your ego.

OUR TRUTH

Look, we like nice things too – custom clothing, tons of travel, a killer terrace.

We just also value our TIME at a very high level. We want a great marriage, long lunches with friends, family time every night and plenty of time off to travel.

We have massive clarity on what it looks like, and when WORK begins to encroach on the things that are important to us, it’s just not worth the trade off. We want minimal obligations and maximum freedom.

TIME is our biggest flex.

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